It’s a new day!!!
I wanted to take some time today to wish any American’s out there a Happy Thanksgiving. I hope you had as good of a day as I did, or better! I woke up, spoke to my family, spent some time checking out this stray mom cat and her kitten next door (so cute!), got ready and then went to the studio. There, I met up with my brother for lunch and then spoke to Uness for a few hours about the direction I wanted my next couple of songs to go in. It was a very cool experience to just sit down and listen to the different kinds of music that inspire me to do music. Hopefully, later today, I will speak with him some more. Then my brother dropped me off at my husband’s job… I know!!! I can’t believe he had to work that night too… but all-in-all, I actually had a fun night. I met some really nice people there (some of which were away from their families too) and I didn’t get home until nearly 3am! It was a fun night. So I hope you (whoever you may be) had a great night too!
OKAY - so down to some more business stuff. I’m having a hard time these days with anxiety. I don’t know where it all came from, but I was looking online for some shows that I could do and all of a sudden I started to feel really nervous about the whole thing. I mean - am I really read to do this? To completely put myself on blast for everyone to see? Am I going to be able to take the talk? the criticism? the good and the bad? Do I feel like I’m going to go out there with my best foot forward? I think I feel so nervous because I’m not as prepared as I should be at this point. I have to be honest - I’ve been really slow-moving with it. I think I’m stagnant because I don’t always know what the next best move is… but since I haven’t figured it out, I haven’t made much progress as a result. Soooooo it kind of sucks. Actually right now, I kind of suck. It’s totally an attitude thing and I need a major adjustment. I just don’t know how to kick my own butt into gear, you know? I have random ideas, but for some reason, I fear failure so much that I don’t even try them out. My brother said something to me yesterday that made a lot of sense. He said, “Joy, you won’t fail… You’re going to get back exactly what you put into this. So even now, you’ve been 100% successful at getting the results you’ve worked for.. and that will continue,” AND HE’S SO RIGHT! Which is the frustrating thing…. *sigh* Thoughts/coversations like this in my head make me feel like I’m either going off the deep-end or I’m having some major PMS symptoms. LOL! I know!!! I kind of feel like a wreck and I just want to pull myself out of it! Maybe I feel worse and worse because I’m not putting in as much as I know I should. Maybe this is all guilt… or maybe, I just need to stop talking about it and just do something already!!!
It’s a new day, you guys! I just gotta do something with it now…
In the meantime… Since I’ll be working on some other stuff - I don’t have a video ready… so I want to leave a friend-tribute. My friends are so awesome… I miss them all. 
Two of my best friends, Natalia and Olivia
Surrounded by some lovely Latinas!!! Gloria aka Glow-yuh, Katita aka “Soul sista”, MOH Natalia, and other bff, Oliva
Evonne, my other best friend and my little girl scout.. and Christina. So much fun!!!
WOW bringing it back!!! With hubby, bff Olivia and her hubby Larry, my “summer sister” LuzElena and her hubby Mike
Don’t get to talk to her much, but I really love her to death.. This is my girl, Naddia.
THIS is really why I wanted to go back to school. You can only have this kind of fun with some cool college friends…
USC had some great people… my sister (forreals!) Kari, Rexanne, JC (aka I love Jesus), and confidante and little light, Amy
My friends are so great. Too bad I’m so far away from all of them!!!! LOL I love them.
“Am I going to be able to take the talk? the criticism? the good and the bad?”
I want to tell you something about this.
I have seen/read so many things in the internet that I sometimes think, people all over the world have that opinion. Like “Cassie can’t sing”. Read it 3000 times or more. But fact is, it’s just internet. People see how other people say things like that and begin to do the same. People who are in the internet so often, forget to enjoy music, forget to enjoy the different kinds of music, the different voices. I remember when I wasn’t in the internet I really didn’t care about voices… how good they are or not. I just enjoyed them. I’m pretty sure people who are not in the internet (on sites like concreteloop.com, mediatakeout.com, all those blogs) think the same. My mom gets it the best: When she hears any Beyonce voice she says: “Oh no, put that screaming off!”
I’m gonna tell you what people will say about you when you are famous:
“She is pretty!”
“She can sing!”
“I love her voice”
“Her voice is good, she can sing, but she is no Mariah Carey.”
And Joy, you must admit, you are no Mariah.
People are in search for a new Mariah, for a new Beyonce. But when they found one (Leona Lewis, Kat DeLuna), they are still not happy. People are dumb.
Now what people will not say (and when they do, I loose all my faith in human beings):
“She can’t sing!”
“She’s ugly!”
I’m 100% sure nobody will say/write that. And if they do, nobody can help them. There are always people who talk shit. Like “I hate Amerie”. Who can “hate” Amerie? Great voice, great looks, great personality. She never did anything to anyone. So I guess people are just dumb. Dumb, dumb, dumb.
Joy, your brother is right. You will get everything back! You will get tons of true fans. But it will be hard. That business is not easy. Albums don’t sell good anymore, look at Britney. Everyone screamed about her, everyone was expecting a #1. But she just sold around 300.000-400.000 copies.
If you wanna have success, you have to have a banger single. A single for the clubs, a song everyone plays in the car, everyone sings when it’s on the radio. I just say one word: Timbaland. I don’t know how he does that. But the music industry is crazy about him. Nelly Furtado, Justin Timberlake, Timbaland himself. Or you have to have a hit like Umbrella… And when you had a banger single like that, a single that was #1 over many weeks, you have to have 2 or 3 other banger singles. Then you can say for sure, that you are in the game and ready to stay.
Oh my god… what am I writing here?^^ I must stop or it will become a book LOL
Comment by Denise — November 23, 2007 @ 4:39 pm
Hey girl!
Just wanna tell you, that me and my friends, we really love you.
Maybe your not whitney, but you got something that really atracts people.
You look so kind and honest. And your voice is so beautiful… i wish i could sing like this…
Mark from Slovenia (country between Italy, Croatia and Austria)
Comment by Marky — November 23, 2007 @ 6:01 pm
I think your brother is totally on spot.
But, most of all, I think that the courage to put “the heart beyond the obstacle”, as we say here in Italy, must come from within you. I can kinda relate (even tho about different matters) because I think too much about the consequences and just plain *think* too much about stuff either, instead of actually get in gear. In the end, doing nothing could only result in future regrets, and that’s a pity because your potential and talent is quite REAL, as someone surely more competent than me regarding music already told you.
Ok, ok, gonna stop here…writing is always easier, reality could be quite a different thing.
Keep it real !
Comment by Lukes78 — November 23, 2007 @ 10:30 pm
Hi, Joy!
This is Clark Vaughan, your number one fan in Detroit. I just want to show my unwavering support of your career, and I do understand how you feel about being apprehensive about getting out there and doing this for real. But, I agree with your brother; you’ll be successful. You’ve got ‘it.’
Just to make a sports analogy, you are like a pitcher who has ‘great stuff’. I don’t know how much you know about baseball, but that usually means the guy can throw the ball at about 95 miles per hour, which is good enough to get almost any batter out. Good enough to make millions of dollars, good enough to be SUCCESSFUL. The problem is that there are guys out there with ‘great stuff’ who get knocked around all the time as if they were just tossing it up there underhanded! Why?? Because they lack confidence. Their lack of belief in their abilities defeats them even before the batter has even swung.
If you get out there with confidence and belief in yourself, wow, you’ll be unstoppable. Confidence will allow you to take criticism and meanness and occasional setbacks with a grain of salt. Confidence will allow you to pick the right material for your sweet beautiful voice, sing it for all it’s worth, and move people on an emotional level like I know you can.
Now, you get out there and DO IT!!
I can’t wait to hear what you’ve got!!!
Sincerely,
Clark Vaughan
Comment by Clark Vaughan — November 24, 2007 @ 1:34 pm
keep your head up! you can DO this!
looks like i’m coming to NY from feb. 13-17…i’d love to see you!
miss you lady,
ak
Comment by Amy Kim — November 30, 2007 @ 1:07 am
joy!! I didn’t know you got married! congrats! it’s been a long time. hit me up on myspace to catch up. I’ll b getting married in April too!!
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